The consensus when this question has been raised before is that no-one knows when the 2004 models will be out, but that given the 2003 was out in December 2002, it's likely to be late in the year, perhaps October or November 2003. Since Honda don't make a habit of major model changes year by year, I doubt they feel any great pressure to get the 2004 models out quickly.
Honda can and will install a remote starter/keyless combo. It is less money than the security system with keyless. (The element has an imobilizor on it so I don't see the need for a 600.00 alarm that no one listens to anyway.) I don't see the remote start/keyless as a luxury. I live in Canada and it can get cold in the winter and hot in summer.
Find that hard to believe about the vanity mirror. Look at any of the cars that fall more into "luxury" or "sedan". All of those cars are equipped with vanity mirrors on both sides. I think they have placed the E more in the category with trucks, and I have hardly ever been in a truck that had vanity mirrors on both sides! Most people just end up using the rear view mirror anyhow.