i also am a big guy and, yes you are right, the factory installed armrest does not do the job. the armrest/console is the way to go. not only does it help with the driver side, but passengers can share it as well. if you don't want to order it through honda, you can order it through the site that is advertised on this homepage and get it a lot cheaper. also there are detailed instructions on how to install it on the message boards.!